Walking away (Ignorance Remix)

18 Mar

I promise that this will be the last time (this week) that I will discuss all the haters out there.

To give you some background, this last week a few things have got me a little peeved. (Check my posts out here and here.)

Something else that had me upset/irritated enough to write about was a local news story about some Douche Bag in Bothell who decided that since the coffee at his coffee stand sucked so much that people weren’t coming in, then hey, why not just make my naive, young baristas with no self-esteem wear bikinis. Awesome business plan, dude.

And by “awesome” I really mean perpetuating the strongly held belief in our country, nay, the WORLD, that it is totally okay to sexually objectify women and to monetarily benefit from such a disgusting business strategy.

So on Facebook this week, I used my Facebook status to not describe my “spawn’s” bowel movements, but to articulate my feelings on a few topics. Here are some examples:

[Mama Bee] is disgusted by owners, baristas, and clients of the Bikini Barista trend. Get some self-respect ladies. And dudes? Just go buy a porn or something.

Just in case CB from momlogic.com is reading, Baby Bee pooped yesterday and it smelled gross. Oh, and STFU.

My personal message to anti-mom/children people around the world = Suck it. Hard.

So yeah, I can see how someone who doesn’t really know me might think I might be PMSing raging this week.

But instead of providing supportive comments (like my super awesome commenters) or even reasonable ones, I had a friend Instant Message me on Facebook telling me that I was “impotently angry” and that being an angry PTA mom (which I totally will be when Baby Bee is old enough – as long as there is an issue serious enough to be angry about) is “nothing to be proud of.” Oh, and also that I am “consistently raging about non-issues.”

Mind you, this was all written to me by a “friend,” albeit a friend that I don’t talk to very often, but said conversations usually range from relationship small talk to poop jokes.

But his comments, while annoying, did bring something to my attention: the pervasive ignorance of people in our society to devalue any problem or issue if it does not affect them.

So if you’re the dude who just can’t seem to figure out why a woman, or anyone for that matter, might be disgusted by the success of Hooters and bikini barista stands…

or the “pro-lifer” who has never been raped or gotten pregnant is a less than Stepford scenario…

or the homophobe who doesn’t see why gays need to be “married” just like the rest of us…

or the single (or married) person who hasn’t enjoyed the wonder that is parenthood, but, you know, doesn’t seem to get what the big deal is…

Please remember that just because a situation or issue doesn’t affect you directly, it probably is an issue to somebody (maybe millions of somebodies).

And just because a woman is powerful enough to stand up for what she believes in doesn’t make her a bitch.

It just makes her a blogger.

Song title: Walking away (Ignorance Remix) by Craig David

8 Responses to “Walking away (Ignorance Remix)”

  1. Yaya March 19, 2009 at 3:06 am #

    First time here and I gotta be a follower! Love your blog! Anyone that uses the word Douche Bag in a post is a friend of mine! ;)

    “the pervasive ignorance of people in our society to devalue any problem or issue if it does not affect them.”
    -how true is that?? Very profound. “Douche Bag” and profound statements in the same post. yup, I’m impressed.

    Congrats on being featured blogger in the flip flop find!

  2. Rebecca March 19, 2009 at 5:46 am #

    Wow, do you feel better with that off your chest? I totally agree with you over the bikini thing. And I really feel to each there own if it does not impact someone else negatively. So why do I feel so judged for not giving a tip to the REALLY bad waitress last night? I only had to wait 40 minutes to place my order and another 40 minutes to get my salad. Why does stuff like this make us bitchy or PMSing? Why can’t it be assertive? Or something with a more positive perception?
    (PS- I never leave such long comments–just wordy today?)

  3. Betts March 19, 2009 at 6:07 am #

    Very well written and I raise my virtual picket sign in support of all that you rage about. I wouldn’t call it impotent anger, I’d call it caring and thoughtful. If more people were like that, civilization would be more civilized.

  4. sissy2mom2b March 19, 2009 at 8:00 am #

    You go girl. Well said.

  5. Bonnnie March 19, 2009 at 8:02 am #

    Congrats on being a featured blogger today at “Little Miss Sunshine.” I look forward to reading your blog and getting to know you.

  6. Amy March 19, 2009 at 9:12 am #

    Yeah for being featured today.

  7. Daniel March 19, 2009 at 12:35 pm #

    I never understood the rage behind the whole barista thing. Hell if i thought I’d get good tips by wearing a bikini, i would! people would vomit (before they even tasted the coffee), but whatevs!

    on the flip side, i haven’t seen them so i don’t really know how tragic the whole thing is. lord knows i don’t want to see it either.

    btw.. where are the male baristas in bikinis??? let’s see some bumpage!

  8. Becky March 20, 2009 at 10:55 am #

    People can be so dumb.

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